This weekend, much of the world is celebrating a weird version of Mother’s Day in social isolation.
With most countries still in lockdown, let’s face it: we aren’t all going out for a fancy brunch (as much as I would KILL for a fancy brunch outside of this house right now!).
But lack of fancy brunches aside…Mother’s Day itself can be a tricky day.
Maybe you’ve lost your mother – so it’s bringing up your grief.
Or maybe you’re finding it hard to become a mother.
Maybe your partner lets you down on special occasions. Or forgets every year, like my husband does (I talk about this in my Mother’s Day 2019 podcast episode). 😁🤦
Or MAYBE all you really need is a day away from everyone…yet on Mother’s Day we have to sit and smile and be grateful for the slippers/foot spas/supermarket chocolates… and still possibly do all the things we do on any “normal” day.
We’ve been conditioned to have expectations on what Mother’s Day should be, and like most things we’ve been conditioned to expect…it often doesn’t end up the glorious way we planned. And so we feel let down. Unloved. Disappointed. Lonely.
This Mother’s Day, I want to encourage you to take all the expectations off the table. Let’s forget about what Mother’s Day should look like through whatever lens our lives have conditioned us to believe is the “Best Mother’s Day Ever.” And let’s detach our self-worth from what others are doing/saying/giving us on this day.
Instead…let’s go rogue this Mother’s Day. Release the pressure of looking to our partners and children to celebrate us. Instead, let’s look to our “choirs” and make sure they know you are celebrating them.
I talk about our “choirs” a lot in my CORECARE program. Your choir is the circle of women you have around you that get you, and that get IT. These are the women that sing for you – that you text in the middle of a meltdown, that you cry and laugh with, that have seen you at your raw and most vulnerable, and love you even more for it.
Let’s recreate the ritual of Mother’s Day this year. Let’s reach out to other mothers and rebuild our support circles, and ourselves, so whether we get a foot spa, again, for the second year in a row… or even nothing…it won’t shake us.
This week in the podcast I am calling on all mothers who have ever felt let down by Mother’s Day (and any other special day). You’ll reclaim and reinvent different rituals that work for you. We’ll dig into the true meaning of this day for you… and can it be different than what Hallmark has led you to believe.
Dive into the 2020 Mother’s Day podcast episode here, and let’s create something different for ourselves (and our choirs).
Be kind to yourself.